Where the mind is without fear….

We are often warned not to push anyone into a corner because that is when they fight their best and most vicious battles. A good hunter will never force a wild animal in a situation from where it perceives no escape; the animal must feel there is still some escape route. Because it is when the animal loses hope of escape, that it will fight at its wildest and cause the worse harm.

A cornered creature, man or animal, is dangerous, even vicious. For, that is the point at which one loses all fear. You become fearless when you lose that which you value the most. Because, when that happens, the rest doesn’t really seem to matter as much. And, you also realize the futility of having lived in fear of losing something that is now beyond reach.

You understand that you could possibly have been able to enjoy the finer intricacies of your object of desire much more if you hadn’t lived in constant fear of losing it. When you lose it, you see the futility of all the anxiety, the heartburn over it. You start looking for and finding ways of living without it. and the human mind and spirit, amazingly resilient as they are, discover reasons and conviction for why you are better off iwthout that which is now lost.

And that is the point at which you start enjoying the positive aspects of fearlessness. For, when you fear nothing, nobody can manipulate you anymore. You would be your own person and not dependent on anyone for your happiness or peace of mind. Your best bouts of courage are reserved for times when you have nothing to lose.

Most manipulations in relationships occur because we hand over the weapon of our fear to be used against us to those we love most. A lover is able to manipulate his beloved’s emotions by threatening withdrawal of love and care. He will sulk, not talk or withdraw caring gestures – all the things that a loved one values. So you givein, bow to the will of the lover, and make compromises, all for fear of losing that which is cherished.

On the other hand, if the lover overplays his hand and carries on the withdrawal act beyond a point, the beloved may finally get used to the idea of rejection and taking the loss as a fate accomplish, lose all fear in the relationship.

Fear of losing leaves you impotent not just in relationships but also in everyday situations such as your work life, with friends or relatives and even with strangers. It extends beyond material things to prestige, respect, happiness, peace of mind, etc.

At work, how often we let people get away with delivering shoddy work, doing an injustice to someone or cheating us just because we fear losing our peace of mind over an altercation! we allow incompetent people to underperform for fear of creating a situation and so losing our calm.

For courage is not just required for doing battle, but also for maintaining a sense of calm, for making money for living a good life – in short for everything. the ‘fight or flight’ syndrome kicks in irrespective of the fact whether the thing we fear losing in physical, mental or a financial threat.

Those who can learn the trick of transcending this fear of loss, would find the courage to enjoy that which they love most while they still retain it. What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.

Think of worst that can possibly happen. Get used to the idea and accept it. From there on, things can only get better… and you can acquire courage even as you retain the object you feared losing, for you fear that no more. You know loss is a possibility and you are moving ahead with that in mind.

You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exists anywhere except in the mind.

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear. – MAHATMA GANDHI

Some people are very emotional, and other people . . . not so much. Those people who are very emotional tend to allow their feelings to take over and control their thoughts. Since our emotions prepare our body for some kind of action, when they are triggered, the trigger hitting the inner source is either negative or positive. When the emotions are highly tuned, they tend to create inner chaos when stimulated. Therefore, it’s likely that the person who is able keep their emotions from getting out of control will have a greater sense of inner peace.

To illustration this point, let’s say a mother is focusing on cooking dinner and she’s feeling relaxed and at peace. However, her son, who is helping her set the table, says to her during their conversation, “Mom, you just don’t care if I live or die!”

The mother’s emotions are immediately triggered, since her son is near and dear to her heart. She can’t help wondering why her son would feel this way. Her first reaction is to feel hurt and then, as her stronger emotions take over, she reacts with anger and their conversation quickly turns into a nasty argument.

As their emotions escalate, chaos is the result, which is one of the main reasons why so many people find it difficult to feel inner peace. Emotions and thoughts are complex. If your emotions do not automatically create a sense of quiet, then you will quickly become a victim of chaos and distress.

Inner peace requires quiet emotions and thoughts. To find your own inner peace, it helps if you learn self-talk that quickly reminds you to remain calm no matter what obstacle you are facing. Mothers often have a difficult time with this because they must care for self, while also thinking about their mate, children, and what they need to feel fulfilled. Thus, moms searching for inner peace would be wise find times throughout their day to relax for self.

The many problems we face each day can make it hard to find inner peace. Meeting financial obligations, dealing with your children, world problems, and other problems can often make it difficult to find quietness of the mind and emotions. One thing that helps is to minimize the news the media brings to you each day unless it has a direct affect on your life. Carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders will never bring you inner peace because you have so little control over any of what is going on. So, pay attention, petition the government if necessary, or protest if you feel the need, but do not get trapped into being overly caught up in the things you cannot change.

Also, if you allow others to take up residence in your mind it will only result in causing emotional stress. Therefore, by taking control of your mind, you will not allow anyone else to rent space in your head, especially if they don’t trigger emotions and thoughts that make you smile.

Our emotions store up mechanisms that can destroy our inner peace, data that comes from the subconscious mind. This includes negative information such as jealousy, anger, hate, frustration, etc. all stored within the subconscious, which has a strong affect on our emotions.

Thus, taking the time for self-analysis is the best way to resolve any struggles you may have that allow your emotions to frustrate your ability to find inner peace. When we express thoughts and emotions, this reflection of our mind becomes public, and anyone around you will form their opinion of your character based on their observations of you.

Therefore, if you feel lost and unable to get a sense of your inner self, you could ask friends and family tell you exactly what type of person they think you are. This may help you come to grips with your self, and start you on the process of finding your inner peace.

Human beings are imperfect. Thus, trying to find perfection is a waste of time and energy. It’s always good to work hard at minimizing bad habits and behaviors, but never allow yourself to think you’re working towards perfection. If you do, then you can’t help but be let down and inner peace will never arrive.

Keep an eye on your impulses. If you’re the type that acts out every impulse, inner peace will be difficult to find since your emotions and thoughts control your actions, behavior and attitude. Impulses are responses to emotions that enforces action. If you tend to act impulsively in every decision you make, you will constantly be looking back at all the mistakes you made — not the best way to find inner peace.

Finding inner peace takes time, effort, skill, and the will to achieve. By staying alert to how your emotions react in every situation, you can learn to shift them into a path that will bring you peace of mind and a happier and healthier life.