Should we give ADVICE?

Suppose one of your close friend or one of your relative comes to you. And he asks for your advice on one of the most critical matter. You take full interest in that matter and give them your adivce, suggest them. considering that problem to be yours.

After some day you come to know they did something else, which you suggested was not correct. Something that shouldn’t be done. You feel why the hell I keep giving advice and suggestions, to people if they don’t value it. You feel very low thinking about this, feeling bad that you are of no value to them, because you feel if you had any value to them they must have done what you suggested, or what you advised them, to do.

What will you do in this condition? How can you make sure this does not happens to you again?

One thing you can do is make sure they think about your advice or suggestion consiously. if you can not guarentee that make sure you are unaffected by their act. Another thing you can do is, take something from the person to whome you are giving the advice for e.g. take a dairymilk choclate for giving a advice. In this way you will feel that you advice was not useless, coz you got something for that. And even the person taking the advice will think if he is giving something for the advice then it must be tried. Although you’ll still feel bad if they still don’t consider your advice, but anyways you got something for your advice.

So keep taking something for the advice you give. Else you will be one of the VICTIM of this mouse trap.

Forget n Forgive

One day one of my friend asked me have you ever forgiven something bad someone did to you?

I thought for a moment and then answered I dont remember if I did. Then my friend replied that is the ideal answer which he expected. As he told me if you were able to answer this question or if your answer would have been yes then you had not forgiven.

If you had forgiven and you dont remember that is very good thing but when you remember that you have forgiven someone that does not mean you have forgiven you still remember that.

The base of any relationship in this world is Trust. You should be forgiving if you want a relationship to be long lasting any relationship. The moment you start remembering the number of you have forgived someone that will make the relationship more and more insecure. You will have revengefull attitude or rather you ll have a grudge for that person. And that hurts relationship.

So If you need to have good relationship you should be good at forgiving but not remembering what you have forgiven. So forget what you have forgiven for long lasting relationships.