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><channel><title>Fundamental Provocation &#187; Ability</title> <atom:link href="http://www.ajaymatharu.com/tag/ability/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" /><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com</link> <description>Blog by Ajay Matharu</description> <lastBuildDate>Sun, 06 Nov 2011 15:09:39 +0000</lastBuildDate> <language>en</language> <sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod> <sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency> <generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1</generator> <xhtml:meta xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" name="robots" content="noindex" /> <item><title>How to evaluate developer in an interview</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/how-to-evaluate-developer-in-an-interview/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=how-to-evaluate-developer-in-an-interview</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/how-to-evaluate-developer-in-an-interview/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Wed, 21 Apr 2010 10:08:13 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Management]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Project Management]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Dealing with pressure]]></category> <category><![CDATA[evaluate developer]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Hire a developer]]></category> <category><![CDATA[interview qualities for developer]]></category> <category><![CDATA[interview questions for developers]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Qualities in developer]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=2269</guid> <description><![CDATA[After been taken lot of interview, I just jotted down some points that you should look at while hiring a developer or an IT person. The following point may look vague and you may say how can we identify these things in the first interview, well you need to listen to the space around while [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After been taken lot of interview, I just jotted down some points that you should look at while hiring a developer or an IT person. The following point may look vague and you may say how can we identify these things in the first interview, well you need to listen to the space around while you are interviewing that person and you will get it. You need to be extremely observant to observe these small but yet important points.</p><p>Here are some points which you should look in the developer before hiring,</p><p>Technical strength –<br /> The person should be technically strong in the language or the field he is hired for. Should know technical jargon&#8217;s and should be able to deal with technical difficulties. Since this is for IT field person needs to be extremely strong technically.</p><p>Learning ability –<br /> He should be quick in grasping things. He should have pick up things faster. You may wonder how you may identify this while taking his interview.  However you can check his reaction for the questions he don’t know the answer of, does he/she asks you back? Or what he does.</p><p>How good is he/she in using Google –<br /> Google being the best friend of any developer, you should also check out how comfortable he is with Google. You can ask him a question and if he is not able to answer. You can ask him what would you search if you are given Google to find the answer for this question.</p><p>How logical is he/she –<br /> You need to check the logic of the person. How does he creates a logic for the problem. You should ask him to explain you what he is thinking, while finding a logic. This will help you to know how the person approaches the problem.</p><p>Knows the basic –<br /> Basic is the necessity. If the person is clear in his basics, he’ll find a way out. He’ll know which approach will work and which will not. He’ll be good at what happens when kind of stuff which we get across almost daily.</p><p>Ready to put in extra effort –<br /> Being in IT, you may require to put in extra efforts on you work. You need to identify if the person is ready for that.  You should also take into consideration the distance between the office and his house, nearer the better. However if you’ll ask the person if he is ready to put in extra efforts his/her answer will always be yes, because he wants the job. So how will you identify? Ask him a question like you need to do a task and you are given very less time what will you do, and then check out his/her approach.</p><p>Dealing with pressure –<br /> Pressure in IT  is obvious! So it becomes necessary to identify whether  the person can cope up with it.  What will he do in if he is put into pressure the same question asked in the above point can also identify how will that person react in pressure condition.</p><p>Communication –<br /> How good is the communication of that person. How well can he explain things to others. Is he polite is he rude these are few things to be noticed while interviewing.</p><p>Attitude –<br /> Attitude is another important thing of the person. How is the attitude of the person positive or negative,  how does he react when he gives a wrong answer? You need to have close look at the person.</p><p>Confidence –<br /> You will also need to assess the person confidence, it will determine how fast will he grow, will he be an asset for the company?</p><p>Feel free to share your thoughts on this. By dropping a comment</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/how-to-evaluate-developer-in-an-interview/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought &#8211; #28</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-28/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-28</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-28/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Tue, 05 Jan 2010 15:47:55 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Concentrate on what you want]]></category> <category><![CDATA[get your goals]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[greatful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[greatful for life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Happier]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Happiness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Rejoice for what you have]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thought of the day]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1974</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.&#8221; &#8211; Epictetus Do you constantly think of the things that you do not have? Are you always concentrating on something you want? If so, you will never feel satisfied &#8211; you will [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><div> &#8220;He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.&#8221;</p><p> &#8211; Epictetus</p></div></blockquote><p>Do you constantly think of the things that you do not have? Are you always concentrating on something you want? If so, you will never feel satisfied &#8211; you will always be looking and hoping for &#8220;someday&#8221; to be here. &#8220;Someday I will have that boat.&#8221; Someday I will have that new car, that new job, etc.&#8221;<br /> Take time out and think about all that you do have! Be grateful for what you are in control of. Rejoice for having whatever you have, great or small! You will find yourself much more happier this way!</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-28/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Experience the fullness of the universe</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/experience-the-fullness-of-the-universe/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=experience-the-fullness-of-the-universe</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/experience-the-fullness-of-the-universe/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:19:52 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Learnings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[abundance]]></category> <category><![CDATA[completeness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Consciousness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[divinity]]></category> <category><![CDATA[isha upanishad]]></category> <category><![CDATA[karmas]]></category> <category><![CDATA[meditation]]></category> <category><![CDATA[renunciation]]></category> <category><![CDATA[senses]]></category> <category><![CDATA[shanti shanti]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1906</guid> <description><![CDATA[Upanishad means to sit close. You can sit close to someone on the physical plane but there may remain a huge distance in the mind. The Upanishads talk about mental proximity. In the Isha Upanishad, Isha represents the I or energy and sha is the completeness: the full, silent, vast, divine. The invocation begins with [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Upanishad means to sit close. You can sit close to someone on the physical plane but there may remain a huge distance in the mind. The Upanishads talk about mental proximity.</p><p>In the Isha Upanishad, Isha represents the I or energy and sha is the completeness: the full, silent, vast, divine. The invocation begins with an exclamation of fullness, or That is full . What is that fullness which is being invoked It is the state of meditation, a state of being that is neither the state of dreaming, sleeping nor waking. After the experience, the master tells the student: That is fullness. The invocation ends thus: Om Shanti, Shanti, Shanti . No happiness or knowledge can happen without peace. The first step to peace is to realise that everything is complete.</p><p>The world that we see, of the senses, is but a small part of totality. Completion is like the zero, full and complete. Completeness settles the mind so you can reflect and this turning of the mind inward is spirituality<br /> Isha the divine permeates the whole universe and is addressed as energy, not as a person. Everything is permeated in that one consciousness. Wake up and see that the whole universe is infinite and that your inner space is as complete as this universe. See that the universe is permeating your spirit; nothing is dead. Honour your body and enjoy this world by renouncing it. Just step back. Clinging to it brings you misery . Renunciation is protection for your soul. Pleasant and unpleasant events, though they may appear different, are both made of the same divinity. Unpleasant events make you stronger, while pleasant events expand you. Renunciation is being in the present moment totally. Realise that the universe is permeated with love and abundance and that your needs will always be taken care of.</p><p>Cultivate the strength to renounce in misery and be willing to do service when happy. Aspire to live for 100 years doing your work. Life here is to get over your karmas, which you can do only in this body; and the knowledge you get, impart to others. Do your action 100 per cent, but dont be feverish about it. Whatever you have not given or loved, you will come back to do it. Keep doing your work and keep renouncing. We cannot really know the entire universe and its magnanimity because of our limited ability to perceive . The brain works on a frequency channel ; our sense organs have limited capacity but the universe, like the divine, is limitless . In this limited time we call life we keep on doing our work.</p><p>Those who do not realise or attend to the self in life live in darkness and when they leave the world they will be in darkness also. When you leave the body in meditation, you achieve a higher plane.</p><p>How do you know if you have realised the Self The atma is motionless; it is the substratum of the universe and everything is in it. It is space that is faster than the speed of light, faster than the mind; you can never comprehend the Self through the senses. The seer, the one who sees, who feels, understands, is the Self. This cannot be comprehended through the senses, yet every action in the universe is run through consciousness . A seed sprouts because there is consciousness in the seed. The entire universe is filled with this prana or life and you are the container of this, not the content.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/experience-the-fullness-of-the-universe/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought – #27</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-27/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-27</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-27/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Sun, 27 Dec 2009 07:37:38 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Accomplishment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Blessings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[get your goals]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Grateful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[gratitude in relationship]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Happiness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inpiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inspirational thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[miracle]]></category> <category><![CDATA[set your goals]]></category> <category><![CDATA[show gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thankful heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category> <category><![CDATA[TODO list]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1945</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;Millions long for immortality who don&#8217;t know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.&#8221; - Susan Ertz Do you have a list of things To Do that will help you get towards your goals? Are you grateful when you have the opportunity to spend some time working towards (or even struggling through) [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><div><span style="font-size: small;">&#8220;Millions long for immortality who don&#8217;t know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.&#8221;</span></p><p>- Susan Ertz</p></div></blockquote><p>Do you have a list of things To Do that will help you get towards your goals? Are you grateful when you have the opportunity to spend some time working towards (or even struggling through) some hard times to accomplish what you want? Remember, there are always others out there that cannot do what you are doing. Be grateful that you can.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-27/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>2</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought &#8211; #26</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-26/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-26</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-26/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Thu, 24 Dec 2009 04:35:07 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Accomplishment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[albert einstein]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Blessings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Grateful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[gratitude in relationship]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Happiness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inpiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inspirational thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[miracle]]></category> <category><![CDATA[show gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[task with love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thankful heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1881</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;There is a calmness to a life lived in Gratitude, a quiet joy.&#8221; - Ralph H. Blum Is your life feeling a little out of control, are things just a bit hectic. Try being grateful for a day or see and see if it changes it. I bet it will!]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;There is a calmness to a life lived in Gratitude, a quiet joy.&#8221;</p><p>- Ralph H. Blum</p><p>Is your life feeling a little out of control, are things just a bit hectic. Try being grateful for a day or see and see if it changes it. I bet it will!</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-26/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought &#8211; #25</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-25/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-25</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-25/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Mon, 21 Dec 2009 04:18:19 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Accomplishment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[albert einstein]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Blessings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Grateful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[gratitude in relationship]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Happiness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inpiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inspirational thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[miracle]]></category> <category><![CDATA[show gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[task with love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thankful heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1879</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.&#8221; &#8211; Epictetus If you are happy with that which you have, life will always be good. This is not to say that you cannot strive for more. But happiness lies in being [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.&#8221;</p><p>&#8211; Epictetus</p><p>If you are happy with that which you have, life will always be<br /> good. This is not to say that you cannot strive for more. But<br /> happiness lies in being content.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-25/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought &#8211; #24</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-24/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-24</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-24/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 18 Dec 2009 08:38:47 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Accomplishment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[albert einstein]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Blessings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Grateful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[gratitude in relationship]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inpiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inspirational thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[miracle]]></category> <category><![CDATA[show gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[task with love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thankful heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1877</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.&#8221; &#8211; Albert Einstein Take a moment and stop and think about 3 things that you take for granted. How did it get there? What if it was not there? [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.&#8221;</p><p>&#8211; Albert Einstein</p><p>Take a moment and stop and think about 3 things that you take for granted. How did it get there? What if it was not there? Do you see what a miracle it is?</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-24/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Thought &#8211; #23</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-23/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=thought-23</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-23/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:02:36 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Inspiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Accomplishment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[attitude  of gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Blessings]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Grateful]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[gratitude in relationship]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inpiration]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Inspirational thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[show gratitude]]></category> <category><![CDATA[task with love]]></category> <category><![CDATA[thankful heart]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thought]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1875</guid> <description><![CDATA[&#8220;Although there may be tragedy in your life, there&#8217;s always a possibility to triumph. It doesn&#8217;t matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always.&#8221; - Oprah Your attitude and how you feel is more important on determining your triumphs than many other factors. Is there someone thing [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Although there may be tragedy in your life, there&#8217;s always a possibility to triumph. It doesn&#8217;t matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always.&#8221;</p><p>- Oprah</p><p>Your attitude and how you feel is more important on determining your triumphs than many other factors. Is there someone thing you want to accomplish (or triumph over)? What 1 thing can you do right now to get you moving in that direction? It does not matter how small it is, just do it now! Enjoy the process!</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/thought-23/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>1</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Use your DESIRES to evolve CONSCIOUSLY</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/use-your-desires-to-evolve-consciously/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=use-your-desires-to-evolve-consciously</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/use-your-desires-to-evolve-consciously/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Thu, 26 Nov 2009 04:32:54 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[life]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Self Development]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Action]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Affirmation]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Affirmations]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Consciousness]]></category> <category><![CDATA[desire]]></category> <category><![CDATA[desires]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Evolution]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Manifestations]]></category> <category><![CDATA[mind]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1836</guid> <description><![CDATA[What is the difference between Yoga and Tantra? Tantra says you have to accept yourself as you are &#8211; do not restrain, just accept, but be aware and you will transcend. Yoga promotes restraint. both ways are acceptable. Tantra and Yoga may be two different manifestations but their genesis is the same. How is that? [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What is the difference between Yoga and Tantra?</p><p>Tantra says you have to accept yourself as you are &#8211; do not restrain, just accept, but be aware and you will transcend. Yoga promotes restraint. both ways are acceptable. Tantra and Yoga may be two different manifestations but their genesis is the same.</p><p>How is that?</p><p>In tantra you accept yourself because that is the expression of your life, of your consciousness, in its natural course of evolution. Within us we have both &#8216;good&#8217; and &#8216;bad&#8217;, creative and destructive. Usually, religions tell us to accept &#8216;good&#8217; and reject &#8216;bad&#8217; or negative aspects of our personality, but we, with our limited understanding, tend to mess things up. We try to change the pattern of our behavior and thinking. This enforced change within the personality is suppression of the normal expression which applies to all levels of our consciousness.</p><p>Tantra talks of the union of Shiva and Shakti. Shakti has nearly always been defined as kundalini, and Shiva, the male aspect, has been defined as chetana or consciousness. Tantra is not really referring to a physical relationship. It says that in order to experience internal union you first experience external union; to experience internal bliss, experience external bliss. The difference is momentary; internal bliss is continuous.</p><p>In Tantra there are initiations which are awakening of Shakti. The practice of asana is an initiation for the body. Pranayama is initiation of the pranas. The only difference between Tantra and Yoga is that Yoga is outgoing; it deals more with the world, body, mind, personality, emotions, actions and environment; whereas Tantra is more meditative.</p><p>You acquire desire because, for the evolution of consciousness, conflict is necessary. It is a means for awakening part of the consciousness. If there were no conflicts, there would be no evolution. There would be a stagnant state of consciousness.</p><p>How should we deal with desires?</p><p>We must accept them. If I desire to slap you, I should think of the repercussions it can have, positive or negative. If I simply follow my emotions there will be a big fight between us. this is where you have to learn to detach yourself. Both processes happen together. You allow emotions to flourish, observe them, and learn how to control them. You come to know when it is the right time for action and let that energy manifest. then this manifestation will be positive and creative, rather than haphazard.</p><p>Do men and women have different spiritual attributes?</p><p>Tantra believes that feminine energy is more refined and of higher quality than masculine energy. in Tantra the female principle has the position of guru, and the male principle that of a disciple.</p><p>Why is this so?</p><p>because of a woman&#8217;s ability to flow without any kind of intellectual barrier which binds one to the material level. Women have intuitive ability because theirs is a psychically active energy. Male energy is passive and seems to tend towards tunnel-vision. Women are able to perceive things which the male energy cannot. One must learn to flow with sensitivity; one must learn to flow with higher awareness.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/use-your-desires-to-evolve-consciously/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> <item><title>Making of successful leader</title><link>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/making-of-successful-leader/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=making-of-successful-leader</link> <comments>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/making-of-successful-leader/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:44:01 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>Ajay Matharu</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Leadership]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Management]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Motivation]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Thoughts]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Ability]]></category> <category><![CDATA[achievement]]></category> <category><![CDATA[achievements]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Corporate Environment]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Effective Leader]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Empathy]]></category> <category><![CDATA[leader]]></category> <category><![CDATA[leadership]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Skills]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.ajaymatharu.com/?p=1817</guid> <description><![CDATA[Who is a good leader? What is it that makes a good leader stand out in the crowd and mesmerize you with his/her finesse in everything he/she does? Experts say that along with numerous other qualities, it is the quality of feeling empathy towards your employee and colleagues that actually makes one a successful leader [...]]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Who is a good leader? What is it that makes a good leader stand out in the crowd and mesmerize you with his/her finesse in everything he/she does? Experts say that along with numerous other qualities, it is the quality of feeling empathy towards your employee and colleagues that actually makes one a successful leader and eventually leads to the success of any organization.</p><p>You can find people in leadership roles almost everywhere you look. However, simply shouldering responsibilities of a leader doesn&#8217;t necessarily makea a person an effective leader. Leadership itself is a privilege and a skill. There are many leadership skils and competencies that when combined and applied, go towards making you an effective leader.</p><p>So what is empathy? Empathy is the ability to have an intuitive understanding of other people and their needs. Within a business setting, it is critical for empathy to be as widespread as possible, permeating all departments from sales to accounting to manufacturing. In today&#8217;s world, as evidenced by the terrible financial crisis of last year, there is a possibility that we could get too caught up in data.  When we do that, we often fail to see truths that are right in front of us. Employees at ll levels of an organization need to understand the people beyond the office walls &#8211; their customers, their clients etc. This enables everyone to make better real-world decisions. Over time, even the smallest decisions influenced by empathy add together to produce a more informed and nimble organization.</p><p>Empathy is a necessary attribute of a great leader but i is not sufficient. A lot more is required. In fact, some highly aggressive corporate environments see empathy as a sign of weakness. A good example of such cold-bloodedness was the hot-shot chief executive Albert John Dunlap, who appeared to relish the title of &#8216;Chainsaw A1&#8242;, bestowed upon him for the way he could and would fire any number of employees without hesitation. Well, he was considered to be golder CEO for a while, but he ended up being denounced for an accounting fraud! And that&#8217;s the core of the matter &#8211; people who are not empathetic often end up being selfish and short sighted instead.</p><p>Effective leaders, make tough decisions when situations warrant, but hey also communicate with employees and understand what they are going through. Empathy distinguishes a good leader from the great ones, in a crises situations.</p><p>It has been understood that empathy is one quality that a leader must possess in order to be successful and it also plays a role in making an organization achieve its vision. So,, what are the behaviors that go into making any person empathetic towards others and how can this quality be developed?</p><p>Empathy can be built from three major behavior<br /> - Recognizing your own shortcomings &#8211; past and present.<br /> - Listening to others and learning more about their lives and their private challenges<br /> - Explicitly aspiring to a noble deal of leadership.</p><p>If you want your business to adopt widespread empathy, there are really three steps to follow.<br /> 1 &#8211; Leave the office and get outside. Go to places where people are most likely to act like themselves.<br /> 2 &#8211; Be genuinely interested in other people. Forget about what is that you do and start caring about the       needs of others. Find the real needs first and your solutions will dramatically improve too.<br /> 3 &#8211; Bring evidence of the real world back to your offices.</p><p>Empathetic leaders position people first. True empathy stems from the leader&#8217;s ability to display genuine concern towards the needs of others. High level of empathy is denoted by:<br /> <strong>1 &#8211; Listening to people:</strong><br /> Pay attention to their tone of voice, to the hidden emotions behind what they are saying to you and to the context. Don&#8217;t interrupt people. Don&#8217;t dismiss their concerns offhand.</p><p><strong>2 &#8211; Focusing on the non-verbal communication:</strong><br /> the body language of people often communicates what they think or feel, even when their verbal communication says something quite different.</p><p><strong>3 &#8211; Being fully present:</strong><br /> when you are conversing with people, don&#8217;t check your email, look at your watch or take phone calls. Allow people to have their comment.</p><p><strong>4 &#8211; A Smile:</strong><br /> it makes people comfortable and you more.</p><p>Hence, it can rightly be said that, even if you have all the qualities of becoming a successful leader, but if you miss the basic quality of feeling empathy towards your teammates, your journey towards success will be very short lived. Put yourself in their shoes and see how success touches your feet.</p> ]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.ajaymatharu.com/making-of-successful-leader/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> </item> </channel> </rss>
