How often are you irritated by others, because they give reasons?

Have you ever thought why do people give reasons?

Have you ever thought why do you give reasons?

The most probable answer you ll get is, to avoid the situation or to run away from the situation. And this may be because you may not be interested in doing something.

But the answer is simple and very straight, its just because everyone wants to Look Good. They want to have a good image of them on others. Even after knowing this people give reasons because its human tendency. Its being designed that way. Everyone wants to look good, Who the hell wants to look bad.

So what people do when they are caught in situation, for which they do not have way out? The very common thing they do is blame other. In this process of blaming other, focus shifts from myself on someone other. And its like, I am not good but the other is worst than me. So you try to convince that you are good than other person.

So how do you deal with person that gives you maximum reasons?

Here are some steps you can perform in this situation,

1) Never invalidate the person giving you the reason. Because your aim is not to invalidate that person, but to know the exact cause. And also remember you might be in his/her situation too.

2) Be aware of what you want to accomplish. Be aware of where you want to direct the person giving you the reason. Once you know what you want, you can redirect that person on the track you want him to go.

3) Ask questions, ask as many questions as you can to that person. In this process his doubts will be cleared, and his path will be clear to him too. Also next time he ll be thinking of giving you the reason, he ll think of all possible questions you may ask to him.

4) Give references of what you want to accomplish. Support it with an example.

These practices will take some good creative mind, to get familiarized.

A mother was walking with her three-year-old son. Soon, they came across a street performer who was about to start his performance, so they took a place and started enjoying his performance. As the performance progressed, people started to congregate around the performer. After sometime, the three-year-old son started to cry and tug at his mother’s hand. The mother was enjoying the show, and got irritated by her son, who was now constantly distracting her.

After some time, she bent down and started scolding her son for misbehaving. While she was bent on her knees and scolding her son, she realised that from that height, it was not possible to see the performer as some other people had come and taken their place, blocking her son’s view. She was fairly tall and could see, but the son couldn’t. Only then did she realise why he was crying, so she picked up her son, and he could enjoy it again.

In our lives, we need to keep reminding ourselves that we need to be sensitive to others around us, so we can understand their position, and do what it takes to help them. Similarly, we need to do what we can to sensitise others of our situation, so they realise our situation, and do what they can to help us.