Missing your loved one?

“I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss.”

– Rita Mae Brown

Losing a loved one is generally never easy. It does not matter if it is a spouse, a friend, a bother, a sister, a cousin, and especially if it was a child. Everyone grieves in their own way.

In order to live, there must be death. We should be grateful that we had the opportunity to have these people in our lives. Many times the anger or resentment that we experience due to the loss of a loved one is not for the person who has passed, but because we are saddened they are no longer with us. It is our own selfishness that traps us from moving ahead.

If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, recall the good times, think about the fun and love you shared. Honor the person.

Most of all, take the time that you need and heal at your own pace.

Thought of the day – #30

“Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart.”

– Henry Clay

A lot of times people look for the “Big Wins”. They go swinging for the Home Runs and look for the Big Ticket items. In many cases, the small things are what really matters! Take time to say, “Thank You”. Smile. Appreciate the things you have. Help someone out who needs it, even if they are not looking for assistance. These Acts of Kindness will be more effective than the big things.

Thought – #29

“It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed.”

- Louise Hay

When something gets you down, do you wallow in the misery? Do you let yourself feel like crud? Or do you use it as an opportunity to look for the bright side of it and grow? Both are possible outcomes and both have a place. The important thing is to learn from the incident and move ahead.

When tragedy strikes I am not suggesting you ‘poo-poo’ it off. On the contrary, you should stay in the moment and grieve, feel your emotions, process your feelings. These are all necessary. But to stop there is a problem. Take some time to examine how you can learn from this and how you may prevent it from occurring in the future.

When you turn bad into good, you will feel awesome!